The Bleaker Sex Indeed

The op-eds in Sunday’s New York Times drew some conclusions that, as a woman overall, left me quite unsettled.

An article entitled “The Bleaker Sex,” written by Frank Bruni, analyzes the upcoming HBO series “Girls” and compares it to the modern woman’s failed attempt to maintain a Don Draper-esque sex life: all pleasure, all detachment. In the sex scene he highlights, he notes the female “hero” is portrayed as having no say in her sexual encounter, choosing to accommodate her partner at her expense rather than striving for mutual satisfaction.

Furthermore, he posits that the 24-hour porn cycle has raised the expectations of men that mere mortal women are unable to fulfill and has pushed the idea that women are to remain silent partners when it comes to sex. I would imagine that this idea would spill over into other aspects of life as well.

I have to admit that Bruni has a point. I have to agree that pornography has had a major effect on how people are becoming less able to separate these sexual fantasies from reality thus contributing to the sexual devolution of society, which is a huge disservice to everyone, but for sure affects women negatively.  What I don’t agree with is the implication that men are more capable than women in having casual sexual encounters and that casual sexual encounters have become the ideal. Just as I believe women are more than capable of sexual detachment, I also believe that men are not immune from the attachment sexual contact can bring.

What do you think? Is sexual detachment becoming the “new normal”?

 

 

Gloria Steinem and the Women’s Media Center are supporting a project that documents sexual violence in Syria. Definitely something to look into.

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With the political crisis in Syria, many of the nation’s inhabitants have become refugees, thus leaving them vulnerable to all types of attack-including sexual assault.

Syrian activists and figureheads from Harvard and Columbia University recognized this and have teemed up to launch Women Under Siege. Backed by Gloria Steinem and the Women’s Media Center, this project allows Syrian citizens and other in the area to report incidences of sexualized violence to track its occurrence in hopes that justice will be served on behalf of the victims.

The following explanation is taken from their blog:

There is an old idiom in medicine that says, “You can’t diagnose a fever without taking a temperature.” So just as taking a temperature tells us so much about the health of a person, taking in the rate of sexual assault can quickly, quantitatively, and objectively tell us valuable information about the health of a…

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Site To See: She’s The First

Did you know that DonateMyDress founder Tammy Tibbets also has an organization that helps send young girls in developing nations to school?

“She’s The First” is a non-profit organization that aims to “sponsors girls’ education in the developing world, helping them be the first in their families to graduate.” Tibbets established this site after realizing that if she could create a network for underprivileged girls to find prom gowns, she could surely do the same to enable girls to get an education and make their mark in the world as global leaders. She’s The First contains a directory of organizations around the globe that supports girls’ education for interested donors, provides tools for starting local chapters, and offers its own sponsorship program.

As always, I am quite proud to share this cause with you readers. I will be adding their link to the Blog Roll at the bottom of the page in addition to featuring it here so you have easy access to their webpage.

Click here to visit ShesTheFirst.Org

This is my latest post on my sister blog “Advocacy Against Victimization.” It’s time that we stop accepting objectification of women in the media!

Advocacy Against Victimization | AAV

Pardon me for living under a rock, but in the midst of clearing out my DVR, I finally sat down and watched Miss Representation, a documentary that chronicles the media’s objectification of women and how it has systematically served to hold women back in terms of industry, politics, and leadership.

While I am not blind to offensive advertising, I must say this documentary gave me a much deeper understanding of how the media, in large part, objectifies women-which is indeed victimization. With a plethora of sexualized advertisements, movies and television shows, it’s no wonder that, by and large, my generation is more concerned about the next episode of “The Real Housewives of…” instead of the Planned Parenthood debacle.

I signed the pledge to spread the word about the media’s gross bias toward women and produce content of my own to combat this epidemic. I implore you to watch the…

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Bitching at Barnard

I, for one, was thrilled when I heard that President Barack Obama was going to give Barnard College’scommencement speech this semester.

Unfortunately, to say that many Columbia University students didn’t share in my enthusiasm is a vast understatement.  In fact, they took to the web and began posting some awfully hateful, misogynistic comments on the original story. Take this gem for example, as submitted by Barnard sophomore Anne Bahr to Jezebel (read the story all the the offensive quotes by clicking here):

While you guys were perfecting your deepthroating techniques and experimenting with scissoring and anal play, we were learning Calculus (usually by sophomore year of high school).

Lovely.

What’s even more screwed up is that Barnard’s own President Debora L. Spar brushed off the commentary as the inane comments of “19-year-olds writing at 4:30 in the morning.” Columbia University President Lee C. Bollinger concurred, even stating that general disappointment was “understandable.”

Both Spar and Bollinger need a wake-up call. The comments of these students go beyond being merely bummed that they won’t get a send-off from Obama. It’s disturbing that this hate speech is going unchecked and that these two key authority figures refuse to take a stand against it. Granted, there is a right to hate speech so long as it doesn’t incite violence, however neither of these University presidents should stand idly by and allow the obvious animosity toward their sister university.

This issue even got the attention of The New York Times! Click here to read the article.

 

How To Outlaw Single Parenthood

Oh, Wisconsin…

Can you please tell me why your state legislature is ready to consider single parenthood a form of child abuse? Please?

If passed, SB507 would theoretically land 1/3 of the state’s population in jail. In my eyes, that is not at all a smooth move. But don’t tell Senator Glenn Grothman, the wonderfully moronic legislator that proposed this nonsense. He just wants this bill to become law so the big, bad government doesn’t use single parenthood as a means to throw the nation into a totalitarian state of dependency, as mapped out by his paranoid diatribe (which you can read here).

Although single parenthood is indeed stressful for both parent and child(ren), that in itself does not lead to child abuse. Single parenthood in conjunction with a dangerous living environment (substance, unsafe living conditions, mental instability, etc.) is really the issue behind the abuse.

Trust me, I know.

Since single parenthood is a risk for economic instability, and since it seems to be a major issue in Wisconsin, perhaps the state legislature should do their part to ease the financial strain of single parenthood via tax breaks (for example) instead of further punishing this population-which, in case you haven’t noticed, is overwhelmingly made up of women.

Watch Sen. Grothman in action below.

 

Back from Hiatus

Hello all.

So, after a few bumps in the road, I am back from a self-imposed hiatus.

It amazes me how life just seems to come at us. I won’t go into gory detail, but a series of unfortunate (and some lovely) events kept me away from writing.

However, rest assured that I have been keeping up with the news and I am more excited than ever to share my opinions.

Cherchez la feminista, and she shall (re)appear.

More content tomorrow.

Siri is Pro-Life

Yes, you read that correctly.

According to an article on Gizmodo, when you ask the iPhone 4S’ virtual assistant the location of the nearest abortion clinic, she will either play dumb or deter the request by pointing one out quite far from your current location. Apparently, she also has a personal vendetta against next-day contraception.

Nice going, Apple. Click here to watch Stephen Colbert's hilarious commentary. Photo from Gawker.com

Click here to read the Gizmodo article.

Vintage Journalism and Women

If only this guy knew that some of today’s journalism greats would be kick-ass women such as Soledad O’Brien, Barbara Walters, Lisa Ling and Arianna Huffington. Watch below to see what I’m talking about…

Click here to read the original post on Huffington Post Women.

Frivolous Fridays: TED Talk featuring Jay Smooth

Really, there is nothing “frivolous” about what Jay is saying here. It’s actually a very intelligent, insightful critique on race relations in America. However, it doesn’t address feminist issues, so I’m using a Friday post to share this with you.

As you know, I am a big ol’ fan of Jay Smooth’s commentary on a variety of subjects, including women. I hope that if my previous post didn’t convince you, this one does.

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