The Bleaker Sex Indeed

The op-eds in Sunday’s New York Times drew some conclusions that, as a woman overall, left me quite unsettled.

An article entitled “The Bleaker Sex,” written by Frank Bruni, analyzes the upcoming HBO series “Girls” and compares it to the modern woman’s failed attempt to maintain a Don Draper-esque sex life: all pleasure, all detachment. In the sex scene he highlights, he notes the female “hero” is portrayed as having no say in her sexual encounter, choosing to accommodate her partner at her expense rather than striving for mutual satisfaction.

Furthermore, he posits that the 24-hour porn cycle has raised the expectations of men that mere mortal women are unable to fulfill and has pushed the idea that women are to remain silent partners when it comes to sex. I would imagine that this idea would spill over into other aspects of life as well.

I have to admit that Bruni has a point. I have to agree that pornography has had a major effect on how people are becoming less able to separate these sexual fantasies from reality thus contributing to the sexual devolution of society, which is a huge disservice to everyone, but for sure affects women negatively.¬† What I don’t agree with is the implication that men are more capable than women in having casual sexual encounters and that casual sexual encounters have become the ideal. Just as I believe women are more than capable of sexual detachment, I also believe that men are not immune from the attachment sexual contact can bring.

What do you think? Is sexual detachment becoming the “new normal”?

 

 

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Frivolous Fridays: How to Insert a Tampon, as told by Larry David

Kudos to Larry David for the latest episode of “Curb Your Enthusiasm” in which he instructs a girl scout on how to use a tampon (through the bathroom door, of course). Finally, a show that used the word “vagina” and talks about tampons in a (semi) serious, non-ironic manner. Nicely done!

Click here to watch the clip and read the story on Jezebel.com

Jezebel.com had even more praise for this and other episodes, which you can read by clicking here.

Boycott the Bunnies

Image taken from Posterworx

Gloria Steinem has sent out the call, ladies.

One of Steinem’s many claims to fame is the 1963 expos√© on the poor conditions of the Playboy Club, in which she wrote a piece that blew one hell of a whistle on the less-than-glamorous working conditions. Now that NBC is about to bring the club to the small screen, Steinem is calling for a boycott of the upcoming series.

Gloria Steinem speaking during a conference at the Santa Fe Convention Center (via Flickr)

According to a report on Yahoo! News, Steinem calls for the boycott not due the inevitable sexually charged content, but because the show will most likely be a grossly inaccurate portrayal of Playboy’s 1960s heyday.

It normalizes a passive dominant idea of gender. So it normalizes prostitution and male dominance…I just know that over the years, women have called me and told me horror stories of what they experienced at the Playboy Club and at the Playboy Mansion.

The Playboy Club premieres in September. Will you be watching?

Frivolous Fridays: Lucy, You Have Some Explaining To Do!

If I had a dollar for every hour I’ve spent watching hilarious reruns of “I Love Lucy,” I’d be able to pay off my student loans.

In my eyes, Lucille Ball was one tough lady and a fantastic pioneer. Think about it: she was one-half of one of television’s first biracial couples and she spoke out against the McCarthy era and while making strides in film and television-and she was funny, to boot!

On August 6 (which would have been Ball’s 100th birthday), Blue Water Productions will pay homage to the funny lady with a 32-page comic book illustrating her career and life in a much-deserved tribute, no explanations necessary!

America's Favorite Redhead (Source: http://www.BUST.com)

To pre-order your copy, click here.

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