The Bleaker Sex Indeed

The op-eds in Sunday’s New York Times drew some conclusions that, as a woman overall, left me quite unsettled.

An article entitled “The Bleaker Sex,” written by Frank Bruni, analyzes the upcoming HBO series “Girls” and compares it to the modern woman’s failed attempt to maintain a Don Draper-esque sex life: all pleasure, all detachment. In the sex scene he highlights, he notes the female “hero” is portrayed as having no say in her sexual encounter, choosing to accommodate her partner at her expense rather than striving for mutual satisfaction.

Furthermore, he posits that the 24-hour porn cycle has raised the expectations of men that mere mortal women are unable to fulfill and has pushed the idea that women are to remain silent partners when it comes to sex. I would imagine that this idea would spill over into other aspects of life as well.

I have to admit that Bruni has a point. I have to agree that pornography has had a major effect on how people are becoming less able to separate these sexual fantasies from reality thus contributing to the sexual devolution of society, which is a huge disservice to everyone, but for sure affects women negatively.  What I don’t agree with is the implication that men are more capable than women in having casual sexual encounters and that casual sexual encounters have become the ideal. Just as I believe women are more than capable of sexual detachment, I also believe that men are not immune from the attachment sexual contact can bring.

What do you think? Is sexual detachment becoming the “new normal”?

 

 

Site To See: She’s The First

Did you know that DonateMyDress founder Tammy Tibbets also has an organization that helps send young girls in developing nations to school?

“She’s The First” is a non-profit organization that aims to “sponsors girls’ education in the developing world, helping them be the first in their families to graduate.” Tibbets established this site after realizing that if she could create a network for underprivileged girls to find prom gowns, she could surely do the same to enable girls to get an education and make their mark in the world as global leaders. She’s The First contains a directory of organizations around the globe that supports girls’ education for interested donors, provides tools for starting local chapters, and offers its own sponsorship program.

As always, I am quite proud to share this cause with you readers. I will be adding their link to the Blog Roll at the bottom of the page in addition to featuring it here so you have easy access to their webpage.

Click here to visit ShesTheFirst.Org

Frivolous Fridays: La Mode d’Paris

Across the Atlantic (and several time zones) Paris Fashion Week was in full swing, with even more waifish models strutting down the catwalk in the most luxurious ready-to-wear known to women. The highly anticipated event saw no shortage of celebrities wearing equally chic (and catastrophic) get-ups. Thankfully for us, Jezebel has delivered.

Click here to see the good, the bad, and the ugly-in French! (photo from Jezebel.com)

The Feminist Dating Bible?

Samhita Mukhopadhyay , executive editor of Feministing.com, has released the book Outdated: Why Dating is Ruining Your Love Life. In the book, she posits that the traditional thought of feminism ruining relationships is false and that, in fact, the rise of feminism has helped in the romance department. Addressing cultural norms, sexuality and the pressure to marry, this book’s mission is to help explain the madness that is relationships and how feminists can find love without compromising their principles.

In an interview on Salon.com, Mukhopadhyay had this to say on the conflict between feminism and dating:

The truth of that argument is that feminism has hurt this really archaic notion of romance… This friction has come up between the reality of how we’re living our lives and the romantic story that hinges on gender relationships that don’t exist anymore.

(Click here to read the full interview on Salon.com)

Hopefully, Mukhopadhyay’s work will eschew the “traditions” of the dating game so us feminists don’t have to play dumb or damsel in distress to get a date.

Click here to purchase "Outdated" on Amazon.com

Frivolous Fridays: Naeem Khan Runway Show

Societal critiques aside, I truly do enjoy New York Fashion Week. Every season, I look forward to seeing the latest work from designer Naeem Khan. Once again he delivers a beautiful collection that I will dream about until next season. Perhaps if I share it with you, you too will fall in love.

Gorgeous! Click here to see the rest of the collection (via Style.com)

Boycott the Bunnies

Image taken from Posterworx

Gloria Steinem has sent out the call, ladies.

One of Steinem’s many claims to fame is the 1963 exposé on the poor conditions of the Playboy Club, in which she wrote a piece that blew one hell of a whistle on the less-than-glamorous working conditions. Now that NBC is about to bring the club to the small screen, Steinem is calling for a boycott of the upcoming series.

Gloria Steinem speaking during a conference at the Santa Fe Convention Center (via Flickr)

According to a report on Yahoo! News, Steinem calls for the boycott not due the inevitable sexually charged content, but because the show will most likely be a grossly inaccurate portrayal of Playboy’s 1960s heyday.

It normalizes a passive dominant idea of gender. So it normalizes prostitution and male dominance…I just know that over the years, women have called me and told me horror stories of what they experienced at the Playboy Club and at the Playboy Mansion.

The Playboy Club premieres in September. Will you be watching?

Huffington Post Women: A Review

Arianna Huffington launched Huffington Post: Women last week, thus giving us a special section full of news and opinion to keep us busy.

Over the past week, I must say that I’m liking the content. I am happy to see that there is yet another news outlet that is available for us, by us. Good show, Ms. Huffington. You will most definitely be added to my blogroll.

Arianna Huffington: a million times, thank you! (Click for source)

Some pieces that I fell in love with:

Rwandan Rape Victims Find Healing Through Yoga

Sex For Sale: College Students Using ‘Sugar Daddies’ To Pay Off Loan Debt

What If Women Were in Charge of the Debt Talks?

I’d post more, but I don’t want to steal the site’s thunder. Rest assured that the site will become a source for content here.

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